The purpose of this guide is to provide sexually inexperienced heterosexual males with a very basic, practical explanation of what their options are when having sex in the doggy style position. I’ll be coming out with a guide for other positions in the near future.
Wikipedia defines the “doggy style” position as “any sex position in which a person bends over, crouches on all fours (usually on hands and knees), or lies on their stomach, for sexual intercourse.”
Doggy style is one of the less intimate and versatile sexual positions. It’s best suited for fast, hard pounding sex. So if you’re trying to set a romantic mood, you’d do better to use the missionary position and save the doggy style position for when things heat up more.
A Few Notes on the Submissive Nature of Doggy Style
In the doggy style position the man has a dominant stance over the woman. This is also true in the missionary position, but unlike the missionary position, in doggy style the woman isn’t cradled safely and intimately in the man’s arms; she’s facing away her away from her lover, completely exposed, helpless and unladylike. A Puritan might say that this position is degrading to women in how it reduces the female to a passive sex doll. I would argue that’s an overreaction. It’s true that the doggy style position puts the female in a more physically passive role, but it doesn’t “reduce” her to anything.
Sexual submissiveness is not synonymous with degradation. Even if the woman has her hands and feet tied up, she can still stop the sex or change it with a word. So she’s really the one in control. If anyone is the submissive in this situation, it’s the man, but nobody is really being subjugated. To the contrary, by putting her body in an exposed position, the woman places her trust in the man to pleasure her respectfully. By treating her exposed body with respect, the man completes the trust circle and creates a safe, intimate, pleasurable experience. In that way, the doggy style position is a fun bonding experience. Frankly, it’s derogatory to woman to say that doggy style sex is something a man does to her, like she’s a victim. She has fun herself while giving her partner the gift of pleasure. If you can’t see the beauty and meaning in that then you’re dead inside.
On a final note, society often asks women to give too much of themselves. Sometimes they give and give and give until they have nothing left. Sometimes they get so tired of playing the perfect princess that the last thing they want to do is have to maintain their poise during sex. There comes a time when they want (and even need) to throw all the gloves off and allow themselves the pleasure of being fucked like in a fantasy without pretense or responsibility. That’s not immoral. That’s therapeutic, and the doggy style position is perfect for this.
Sex isn’t just about penetration. It’s a total mind-body life experience. Good lovers pleasure their women before, during and after penetrative sex. The doggy style position limits how you can interact with your partner, but what you can do, you should do.
Without even touching her, you can tell her how beautiful she is, what she means to you and how much she turns you on. The more you turn on her mind, the more you turn on her body.
Even though the doggy style position can look pretty carnal, you can set a sweet, tantalizing tone using techniques like these:
Lightly kissing and caressing your partner’s erogenous zones such as pussy, inner thighs, ass and back.
Pull her up into a kneeling position and squeeze and caress her body while nibbling her ears and neck and whispering compliments in her ear.
Lean her down on all fours and position your chest over her back and graze her pussy with your dick while you play with her tits, bite her shoulders and pull her hair.
There’s no correct sequence of ways and places you should be stimulating your partner. The important thing is that your movements are fluid and fit the mood.
Inevitably, you’ll be tempted to spank a woman’s upturned, bare ass before or during sex. Here’s what you need to know about that. Most girls enjoy a little spanking as long as it’s in the right context. The physical act of spanking is exciting and pleasurable, but the most erotic aspect of spanking is the trust exercise between the giver and the receiver. The idea is that the receiver can trust you to administer small doses of pain without causing too much pain or disregard for their feelings. You create that context by kindly caressing her ass, and showing her you care about her. Then spank her lightly, caress, spank, caress, repeat. Give her a few spanks, and if she responds well, spank her a little more. If she doesn’t seem to be getting much out of it, move on. Always finish a spanking session with kind caressing, and the more pain you inflict on your partner, the more aftercare you should give her.
You could lie down on your back and stick your head between your girl’s legs and eat her out while she kneels on all fours, but she won’t be able to completely relax and get into your cunnilingus. Plus, you won’t be able to reach her clitoris with your tongue as easily as you would from the missionary position. If you’re going to go down on a girl in this position, do it for the novelty, not because it’s the best way to go down on a girl.
You should always begin PIV sex slowly to allow your partner’s vagina time to lubricate and expand. While doggy style isn’t a very intimate position to start a sex session in, it creates a perfect angle for the penis to enter the vagina comfortably. So it can be a good position to begin with if tightness is a problem. However, you might want to change positions or speeds soon, because slow doggy style sex can get boring quickly.
You can rarely go wrong with a good medium pace in any position. It feels good. It lasts longer than fast sex, and it builds stronger orgasms. Once you get a rhythmic, medium pace going for a while you’ll eventually want to take it up a notch. Instead of taking it up a notch by thrusting faster, try staying at a medium pace while thrusting harder. This gives your partner’s vagina more stimulation without numbing it from rapid friction. Plus, pounding a woman good and hard is more manly and sexy than speed humping her.
Doggy style can be fun at any pace, but the position lends itself best to hard, fast sex for obvious reasons. As mentioned earlier, the vagina is angled so ideally to be penetrated by the penis, which means doggy style position allows your penis to penetrate the vagina as deeply as possible. At the same time, you can thrust into her as hard and fast as your body is capable since the woman’s legs aren’t in the way of your thrusts, you can use your powerful thigh muscles to push with and you can hold onto your partner’s hips and pull her into you. The physical intensity of fast, hard doggy style sex accentuates the erotic nature of the woman’s exposed, trusting position. Those two factors combined add up to great sex. And on those occasions when a girl doesn’t care about the context of sex and just wants to get fucked until she can’t remember her burdens, this position will allow you to give her that experience.
Having great sex in the missionary position requires you to put a little art into your thrusts. The doggy style position requires less creativity since it’s best suited for hard, fast pounding sex. You know you’re doing it right if your partner’s body is shaking and she’s biting the pillow to muffle her cries of passion. If you want to fixate on your technique, then fixate on your breathing technique so you can hammer away on your partner’s yearning pussy longer.
You may have to sacrifice some speed and force to do this, but if you thrust in a way that the base of your cock presses against the lower wall of the vaginal canal (near the clit, away from the anus), then you can stimulate the G-spot. Combining G-spot stimulation and deep, hard, fast penetration is a recipe for great sex.
You can swivel your hips a little to angle your penis to hit the sides of the vaginal canal. However, this doesn’t work as well in the doggy style position as it does in the missionary position. You can do a little of this to be playful at first, but it will get boring quickly.
The basic doggy style position has the girl on her hands and knees. If you start out in this position, don’t be surprised if the girl lays her torso down instead of holding herself up on her arms. Lying halfway down like this is simply more comfortable and doesn’t affect what you’re doing behind her. Whether she’s on her hands or chest, this position works great for pounding sex. So use it for that.
Instead of kneeling behind your girl, thrusting your cock straight into her, you can push yourself up into a half-kneeling, half-standing position and lean forward over her back. From this position your penis will be angled downward. So when you thrust into your partner, your penis could hit her G-spot. This can be very pleasurable for women, but it’s very strenuous on the man’s leg muscles. If you can’t hold this position for long, consider saving it until the last few minutes of sex.
Woman leaned back
When you’re kneeling behind your woman, and she is on all fours, pull her torso towards your chest so you’re both kneeling. Then slide your penis inside of her vagina. You won’t be able to get your penis in as deep as in the traditional doggy style position. However, if you aim your thrusts low you may be able to hit the G-spot. That could pay off well, but this position is a little awkward for both people to hold, especially the woman who has to hold herself upright while you pound into her from behind/below. This is an intimate way to embrace a woman. So do it enough to show her you care and then let her lay back down where she can relax and focus her mind on the pleasure you’re giving her.
Instead of having the woman down on all fours, have her stand up and either lean against the wall or over a desk, couch or counter. This way you can draw on the full power of your legs to fuck your partner as hard as physically possible.
Fucking a girl against the wall is great for impromptu, carefree sex. However, the idea is usually more erotic than the reality. Women tend to want to lean over when being fucked from behind. If they lean too low against the wall and you’re pounding them with all the force your legs can muster you’re likely to ram their head into the wall. They’ll be more comfortable if you lean them over the back of a couch. That will also have cushions to pad their abdomen. If you lean a girl over a table and ram into them full force, you could bruise their abdomen against the table… unless you put a cushion there.
Girl on her stomach
Have a girl lay on her stomach with her legs together. Then lie on top of her and enter her vagina from behind. If you want to be intimate, lay your chest flat on her back when your penis is inside her. If you want to give harder thrusts, then kneel over her ass and enter her vagina. Either way, be careful not to enter her anus… unless she’s into that.
If you put a pillow under her hips and lay your chest on her back, then when you thrust downward your penis could hit her G-spot same as in the froggy style. However, where froggy style is the most exhausting variation of doggy style, this is the least physically demanding. If your partner has a cushy butt, this position will feel even better for you. This position feels great for slow, medium or fast sex. It’s also great for irregular speed and hip-swiveling thrusts. You can really get playful in this position. Wrap your arms around your girl, pin her, whisper in her ears, bit her neck and pull her hair. You could even give a girl an erotic back massage while penetrating her. One downside to this position is that you can’t drive your penis as hard or deep as you could in tradition doggy style. Another problem is that it limits how well you can use toys to stimulate the clit. For those reasons, this position is best suited for the beginning or middle of a sexual session, not the grand finale.
The doggy style position already puts the woman in an exposed position. The erotic nature of offering her body to you can be accentuated by tying her hands together or to something in front of her (like the head board). You can also tie her feet together, but unless you’re getting really kinky, don’t tie her hands to her feet or she won’t be able to move at all. You can also put a blindfold or mouth gag on her.
Restraining a woman when she’s already exposed and helpless increases the trust she places in her partner, which increases the intimacy and meaning of the experience. And on the occasions when she wants to be fucked without regard for social etiquette, the restraints add an extra layer of delicious naughtiness.
If your woman wants to experiment with anal play for the first time, you should have PIV sex in the doggy style position while inserting a butt plug in her ass. This way she can experience a pleasurable deep vaginal fucking while experiencing anal penetration for the first time. She doesn’t have to see, touch or help put the butt plug in. So even though she’s already consented to it happening, it’s out of sight and out of mind until it happens. Anal beads work well also.
Most women can’t have an orgasm by PIV sex alone. They need clitoral stimulation. The three things that stimulate clitorises best are tongues, fingers and mechanical clitoral stimulators. Anytime you can use one of these to stimulate the clit during PIV sex you’re setting the stage for a female orgasm.
It would be impractical for the man to reach around his partner during doggy style sex to stimulate her clitoris with his fingers or a toy. The exception is when the woman is leaning back, but that’s an awkward position to hold for a long time, and you won’t be able to thrust very hard since you’ll have to control what your hand is doing in front of/below your partner. However, the woman can use one hand (if she’s on all fours) or both hands (if her torso is lying flat on the bed) to stimulate her own clitoris. If she’s willing to do this she can have mind blowing clitoral stimulation and deep, fast pounding PIV sex at the same time. If she’s using a butt plug as well, she stands to have an orgasm that could take days to recover from.
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